Finding what's real and true
This week, I’ve been thinking about change.
Not the kind that happens to you, the kind you choose.
I was in my usual spot, at my desk, when I got an email from Brooke Castillo. It wasn’t addressed to me personally, of course, but it felt like it was.
Brooke is a life coach, an exceptional one and I trained at her school. She’s someone I deeply respect. Years ago, she set a goal to make $100 million and did it. Then she stopped everything for a whole year.
So when I saw this 'comeback' email, I clicked open so fast.
Inside, she shared her next move.
She’s done with running a big company.
She doesn’t want a team or the weight of a huge business anymore.
She just wants to do one coaching call a week, every Wednesday and that’s it.
You can join anonymously, be coached live or watch the replay. No extras! And I loved it.
I love seeing women change their minds.
I teach my members the same thing, that your Future Self will evolve, that your dreams will change shape. But when I watch it happen in real time with people I admire, I’ll be honest, it still challenges me.
It makes me wonder, does that mean she stopped loving it?
Does that mean I might stop loving this one day?
What if everything I’m building now, the thing I adore, isn’t forever?
I think that’s what I find confronting about these stories. When they step back, simplify or choose something quieter, it makes me question what I’m really working toward.
When Adele announced her long break after working tirelessly on her last album and tour, I remember sitting down to make a freedom list, asking myself “What do I want my hard work to earn me?”
And it was challenging!
Because to answer that, I had to step out of my routine, out of the version of me that sits at her desk every day. I had to mentally dismantle what I’ve built, what I'm still building and that’s a fragile feeling. But there’s also something freeing about it too.
Because when I think about women like Oprah, who went from daily TV to sporadic podcast episodes, I see that simplicity doesn’t mean less impact. It’s just a different kind of power.
And maybe that’s what all this is about.
Working hard today so that our 'future self's future' can be slower, simpler and softer but still full of purpose.
I know my future self wants £100k months. But my future's future might want investments, fewer calls, maybe even just a few meaningful public speaking opportunities. And that feels both scary and… delightful!
There’s a TED Talk I love that says "human beings are works in progress who mistakenly think they’re finished". We always underestimate how much we’ll change. Ten years ago, I was a totally different person. So who knows what the ten years that come after the next ten years will hold?
So I guess what I’m saying is don’t be afraid if your future looks drastically different from today. It’s meant to.
Until next Sunday,
Dior xx
P.S. If you’re ready to stop waiting for 'one day' and start becoming that version of you now, grab my Future Self Workbook.
It’ll help you design who you want to be next and start living from her today.